We have a few rituals that have developed or been dropped through our D/s journey, one that has been there from the start is PurpleSole chooses my underwear.
This was originally started as a simple element of control. I found it hard in the beginning to give up control, I know that sounds crazy as it was what I was asking for and wanted. I found I pushed back against PS unnecessary just because I could. So having rituals helped me to stay in my submissive mindset. PS choosing my underwear was relatively simple and playful aswell.
This ritual did comes with problems at the beginning, PS would forget some mornings to put underwear out for me. I didn’t want to make him feel like I was undermining his control so I wouldn’t say anything, but that just led to me feeling sad that he had forgotten, which is good for no one. Now if he does forget on occasion I will just get dressed without any and tell him in a sexy way that there’s something missing. Much more fun, who needs underwear anyway. Of course he can always decide deliberately to not put any out aswell.
I like that it’s something we share together as a secret, a knowing glance if we are out together and he’s chosen a lace thong. I haven’t been in the situation of a dress or skirt with no underwear yet, but if it’s what PS decides then so be it.
N. B. Please excuse the knobby title. The conversation went as follows,
“Do you have a title? It can’t just be ‘underwear’.”
PS doesn’t like my blunt titles… so I thought I would use Latin, everyone likes puns right?